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You’re at the midway point of the year. Six months down, six months to go, the perfect time to reflect and realign yourself with your 2020 goals.
It’s fair to say, the start of 2020 has been the toughest start to the year that many of us will ever face. A lot of stuff has happened around the world that is affecting each and every one of us. While you may be tempted to just throw in the towel - experiencing setbacks is a totally natural part of the process of achieving a goal.
In fact, if you can refocus on your goal and start working on it again, you’re more likely to achieve it because you have reaffirmed (in your mind) just how important your goal is to you.
If you’ve fallen behind on reaching a goal, here are a few things you can try to get back on track for the last six months of the year.
Sometimes we might have a certain goal in mind but the action-plan we have in place simply doesn’t work.
Say your goal is to get fitter and you’ve decided to get up every morning at 6am to go to the gym. But with a late-night job, you’re just so tired in the morning that it’s much easier to hit snooze and go back to sleep.
Rather than try to struggle against your circumstances, look at how you can change the way you go about achieving the same goal.
So instead of scheduling in a 6AM gym session, look at whether you can hit the gym later in the day.
And if the problem is that you really just hate going to the gym (hey, some of us just don’t get excited by loud techno music and lycra), find a style of exercise you can get into - whether that’s a long hike each weekend, an MMA class or something fun like playing a team sport.
When we start out on a goal we often want to go all in, so you end up making huge, dramatic changes to your life.
But for some people, sticking to big changes is really hard. Instead, you need to make smaller (minuscule even) changes and stick to them daily.
If your goal is to save up for a family holiday, instead of trying to save half of your pay each month, start out small by focusing on just saving all the change left in your wallet at the end of the day. Then you can build up to saving on household items and expenses. Eventually, you won’t think twice about socking away hundreds of dollars and even thousands of dollars for your trip.
Some people find it easy to stick to a goal, whether the expectation comes from someone else (like committing with your partner to save more) or from yourself (like telling yourself you’ll give up beer or alcohol)).
But many of us find it really easy to meet external expectations (like taking the kids to sports practice or getting to work on time), but struggle when it comes to keeping promises to ourselves.
If you’re in the latter camp, then one solution is to find some external accountability to meet your personal goal.
There are a few ways to go about it. You could enlist your partner to check in with your progress regularly. Or you could start a journal or online blog and regularly write and talk about how your goal is going.
If that all sounds a bit too much sharing for you, then something as simple as keeping a visible reminder can help. What about buying a stack of ping pong balls and a big, clear container. Put the container somewhere you’ll see daily and every time you make progress towards your goal, add a ball. The visual reminder, plus the urge to see the container getting fuller, might be enough accountability you need.
Whatever your goals are, they’re going to take real time and energy to achieve. But the biggest failure for reaching your goals can often be not making the time to get the right stuff done.
Commit now to making that time priority. Schedule those things into your day – whether it’s a daily run, an hour night to work on your business plan, or an evening a week to review your finances. Ask yourself, what are the non-negotiables you need to get done to move you closer to your goals?
As cliché as it sounds the whole point of goal setting is to help you do the things that matter to you most and as a result, live a more fulfilled and happy life based on your terms. So if you have picked goals that make you feel miserable, maybe it’s time to change them and pick ones that make you feel excited and happy.
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When you think of self-love what do you think of? Bubble baths, walks on the beach, facemasks, or what? Self-love can mean so many different things but when we think about self-love, we have to acknowledge loving ourselves both on the outside and on the inside. The way that we show ourselves love is one of the most important things we will ever do.
How do we treat ourselves? How do we talk to ourselves? What foods are we putting into our bodies? How are we thinking about our overall well-being when practicing self-love?
As self-love defines and redefined itself for you over the years, here are a few foundational tips to think about when easing into your self-love journey.
Don’t we love this one? Loving ourselves has a lot to do with the boundaries that we have for ourselves, with others, and for others. Take time to think about your own emotional, mental, physical, and spiritual needs when setting boundaries that reflect your personal needs. Boundaries don’t have to be big and scary; they are here to remind us that you get to have your lived experience and still have expectations about how you’d like to be treated and what you’d like to feel.
When thinking about your boundaries, ask yourself:
In a world where perfectionism and curated existences have been rewarded, begin to cultivate compassion for yourself. You are a soul having a human experience and it’s totally okay if things are not perfect.
Mindfulness exercises such as Breathwork, self-care activities, and self-compassion, all help train the mind, emotions, and even the body’s stress chemicals to be able to deal with undesired situations. Self-compassion means, can you be nice to yourself? Can you find empathy and kindness for yourself in the middle of what feels chaotic, stressful, or unwanted? Self-compassion means that we get to make mistakes, have our plans not work out the way that we wanted, and we still get to celebrate that we are doing the best that we can and it is enough.
When thinking about self-compassion, ask yourself:
In every sense of the word “nourishment”, begin to learn what nourishes you and what depletes you. Nourishment doesn’t just mean food for yourself; it means that whatever you are consuming whether it be media, podcasts, people, energy, information, etc. all impact the way that we think, feel, and experience life.
Nourishing yourself definitely goes right along the lines of having your boundaries intact and practicing self-compassion.
When thinking about nourishment, ask yourself:
That’s it. Those are the foundational steps to cultivating a self-love practice that you can ease into your daily routine. Come back to these questions often, because like anything else, self-love is a practice and it takes effort, time, and intention to maintain.