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Acts of Kindness Week
Wellness
Published Friday Feb 16, 2018 by Erica Arvanitis

7 Ways to Be a Kinder Coworker

Motivation
Personal Growth

Finding the positive in that 9-5 grind can be a challenge. So many of us think of work as work, and it’s the one place we may forget to show a little kindness. Unsubscribe to the negative attitude that might make the office miserable by spreading some love! 

Here are a few ways to pump up the positivity at your work today, tomorrow, and all year long: 


Say it with a sticky 

Kind words are contagious. When you have a few minutes to spare between meetings, grab a pile of sticky notes and write uplifting affirmations on them. Need some inspiration? Play around on Pinterest! Place those little notes packed with positivity around the office—like the break room, kitchen area, conference rooms, or even at someone’s desk who you know is having a hard day. 

Get rid of gossip

You wouldn’t like someone talking about you behind your back, so make it a point to return the favor. When that one coworker corners you in the kitchen about someone’s outfit or who’s presentation didn’t go as planned, refrain from the drama and try changing the topic. You’ll feel better without all that negative energy. 


You can sit with us 

The new guy—or girl—at the office might not have many work friends yet, so include them in your lunch plans. Whether you head out to grab your grub at the local spot, or meal prep is on the menu at the kitchen tables, your coworker will be grateful for the effort. 


Kill ‘em with compliments 

Did Andy from IT serve as your tech spirit guide when your laptop faded to black? Has Julie run a marathon over the weekend? Validate their hard work with a “Well done,” “Good job,” or just a solid thumbs up. 


It’s just a ride, it’s just a ride

Are you running to Target after work in your coworker’s neck of the woods? Maybe you just found out someone lives in your neighborhood? If they normally take the train or bus, offer the occasional ride instead. Added bonus: you can get to know each other better on the drive! Find out something new about them—a little compassionate conversation goes a long way. 


Hold the door 

We’ve all done that frantic run to catch the elevator—meeting notes falling all over the floor, keys flying right out of your bag... it’s a stressful mess! Next time you see that person making the sprint to the elevator or door, hold it open. It’s a simple gesture, but it could turn their whole day around. 


Treat yo’ coworker 

There’s nothing like an unexpected iced coffee, latte, or tea! No matter the season (or the reason), treat your desk buddy to their favorite beverage! It will be just the late-day pick-me-up they need. 

The smallest act of kindness can make a big impact. Aside from making us feel good, there’s also a healthy benefit to paying it forward. Being kind produces oxytocin, or the “love hormone,” which helps to lower blood pressure and improves heart health. 

When this positivity is promoted it creates an emotional bond, which—to us—sounds like a great way to connect with your coworkers. 

Erica Arvanitis MINDBODY
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Erica Arvanitis
Copywriter
About the author
A copywriter by day, Erica spends her free time mastering the art of puzzles while forcing her 10-year-old Chow mix to wear sweaters. With experience in PR, social media, marketing, and copywriting, Erica lives and breathes the written word. Warning: don’t test her on Friends trivia - she will win every time.
shanila sattar
Wellness
Published Wednesday Mar 17, 2021 by Shanila Sattar

Foundational Steps to Cultivating a Daily Self-love Practice

Self-care
Expert Advice
Personal Growth
Wellness

When you think of self-love what do you think of? Bubble baths, walks on the beach, facemasks, or what? Self-love can mean so many different things but when we think about self-love, we have to acknowledge loving ourselves both on the outside and on the inside. The way that we show ourselves love is one of the most important things we will ever do. 

How do we treat ourselves? How do we talk to ourselves? What foods are we putting into our bodies? How are we thinking about our overall well-being when practicing self-love?

As self-love defines and redefined itself for you over the years, here are a few foundational tips to think about when easing into your self-love journey.

 

Step 1: Learn to set boundaries

Don’t we love this one? Loving ourselves has a lot to do with the boundaries that we have for ourselves, with others, and for others. Take time to think about your own emotional, mental, physical, and spiritual needs when setting boundaries that reflect your personal needs. Boundaries don’t have to be big and scary; they are here to remind us that you get to have your lived experience and still have expectations about how you’d like to be treated and what you’d like to feel.

When thinking about your boundaries, ask yourself:

  • How do I feel without having boundaries?
  • What would I like to have boundaries around?
  • Are my boundaries actual boundaries or am I creating walls in my life?
  • How do I plan to uphold my boundaries?
Step 2: Cultivate self-compassion

In a world where perfectionism and curated existences have been rewarded, begin to cultivate compassion for yourself. You are a soul having a human experience and it’s totally okay if things are not perfect. 

Mindfulness exercises such as Breathwork, self-care activities, and self-compassion, all help train the mind, emotions, and even the body’s stress chemicals to be able to deal with undesired situations. Self-compassion means, can you be nice to yourself? Can you find empathy and kindness for yourself in the middle of what feels chaotic, stressful, or unwanted? Self-compassion means that we get to make mistakes, have our plans not work out the way that we wanted, and we still get to celebrate that we are doing the best that we can and it is enough.

When thinking about self-compassion, ask yourself:

  • How do I respond to stressful situations?
  • How hard am I on myself?
  • How do I celebrate myself?
  • How do I show myself kindness?
Step 3: Nourish yourself

In every sense of the word “nourishment”, begin to learn what nourishes you and what depletes you. Nourishment doesn’t just mean food for yourself; it means that whatever you are consuming whether it be media, podcasts, people, energy, information, etc. all impact the way that we think, feel, and experience life.

Nourishing yourself definitely goes right along the lines of having your boundaries intact and practicing self-compassion. 

When thinking about nourishment, ask yourself:

  • How do I nourish my emotional well-being?
  • How do I nourish my mental well-being?
  • How do I nourish my physical well-being?
  • How do I nourish my spiritual well-being?
  • How do I nourish my social well-being?
  • How do I nourish my financial well-being?

That’s it. Those are the foundational steps to cultivating a self-love practice that you can ease into your daily routine. Come back to these questions often, because like anything else, self-love is a practice and it takes effort, time, and intention to maintain. 

If you’d like to try breathwork, mindfulness, or play classes with me, check out these workshops and training sessions that work with your schedule. For other breathwork classes, browse Mindbody.

 

About the author
Shanila is a 4th generation sound healer, breathwork coach, mentor, women’s researcher, and speaker. She is the Founder of AlwaysPlayStudios where she trains breathwork facilitators and sound healers. Her background is in tech, having co-founded an award-winning web agency, and in women’s research, specifically in mindsets, implicit bias, perfectionism, women's health, and societal experiences supported through the National Science Foundation, National Institute of Health, and several universities. She has implemented several health and wellbeing programs in underserved populations throughout the US. Shanila mentors healers on their healing and intuitive wellness journeys. Connect: @shanila.sattar