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self-love tips MINDBODY
Wellness
Published Thursday Jan 03, 2019 by Erica Arvanitis

What I’ve Learned About Loving Myself

Personal Growth
Meditation

These days, we live in a world where self-love is literally everywhere. It’s all over your Instagram feed. It’s in your workplace when chatting with coworkers. It’s present at your yoga practice and most importantly; it’s within you. 

Is self-love a face mask at the end of a stressful day? A soothing bath to wash away the insecurity you felt on that first date? Or maybe it’s heading into a therapy session ready to discuss your triggers. Self-love takes on many forms. It can be all of those things—or it could be none of them. But what all these activities have in common is care. The act of self-love is proving to yourself that you’re worth the effort and time that goes into your rituals, whatever they may be. 

Finding self-love hasn’t always been smooth for me. I spent the majority of my life feeling like I wasn’t good enough, allowing my insecurities and anxiety to swallow me whole. My journey to self-love is still constantly evolving. I have days where I wake up feeling so free, so content with myself, so real. Other days, I wake up shrouded with self-doubt and swarming with insecurities. But now, it’s all in how I handle that anxiety throughout my day, and that’s where self-love comes in. 

Whether you’re searching for a way to turn down the volume of that overly-critical voice in your head or want to start 2019 on an authentic note, here are some of the go-to lessons I’ve learned about navigating self-love. 


Go at your own pace. 

Around this time of year especially—oh hey 2019—there is an overwhelming pressure to quickly change ourselves for the better. In years past, I’ve found myself directing energy to what others were doing—like committing to be more fit with a new gym membership—and it caused me to compare their goals with mine. They were always doing more, and I wasn’t doing enough. 

2019 is the year of breaking that pattern! The more you focus on what others are doing, the less attention you give yourself. And here’s a little piece of advice: whatever you are doing is enough. Whether it’s taking five minutes out of your day to go for a walk outside and meditate, signing up for weekly classes at your favorite yoga studio, or making the choice to start therapy, these decisions are yours and no one else’s. You don’t have to accomplish anything according to any timeline, so give yourself permission to move at your own pace. 


Embrace your vulnerability. 

What if your “weaknesses” were actually your strengths? For me, I had been living most of my life thinking that my sensitive nature was “too much.” A burden for the people around me. It wasn’t until I made a choice to start therapy almost three years ago that I was introduced to the idea that vulnerability is my superpower. It’s how I express myself and connect with others, so why would I hide it? Instead, I leaned into it. The world needs more of us softies, let’s show them how compassion is done. 


Create healthy boundaries. 

Just like self-love isn’t always a walk in the park, setting boundaries can be challenging, too. Establishing healthy boundaries is a way to make space for your authenticity to shine—and it’s at the core of self-love. For me, setting boundaries always seemed like a negative thing until I started actively doing it. It’s not fun to put them in place, and you need to get honest with yourself as to why you left those doors open for so long. But in the end, it’s worth the growth. Remember that bringing these boundaries into your life is about you. You have all you need to experience your authentic self, so start trusting the lines you’re creating. 


Make mistakes, often. 

We all fear the dreaded “F” word–failure. This whole “self-love” train feels smooth when things are going well—you’re in a healthy relationship, you just got a promotion, etc.—but when we mess up, it’s not so easy. 

It’s a revolutionary act to not only make mistakes, but to talk about them. How will I learn if I don’t delve into why I made that decision? Failure is the fire that fuels my growth; it teaches me how to turn right instead of left, and where I should shift my focus for the future. That’s why self-love is something I consistently practice. 

It’s not an accomplishment, a gold star, or something you finish. I’ll be learning how to love myself all my life. It’s essential to keep pushing, keep working at this ritual of self-love for the moments when I’m anxious, worried, or things don’t go as planned. This healthy habit acts as the roots of my inner self, helping me to steer clear of negative self-talk when times are tough.


Creating a safe space for your authentic self to flourish takes time, effort, and investment. Whether it’s something small like leaving a party early, or a big decision like setting a boundary with someone close to you, make the art of self-love part of your daily practice and remember that you are worthy of loving yourself fully

 

If you want to learn more about self-love and navigating mental health, follow Erica’s journey at @anxietyerica or read her blog!
 

Erica Arvanitis MINDBODY
Written by
Erica Arvanitis
Copywriter
About the author
A copywriter by day, Erica spends her free time mastering the art of puzzles while forcing her 10-year-old Chow mix to wear sweaters. With experience in PR, social media, marketing, and copywriting, Erica lives and breathes the written word. Warning: don’t test her on Friends trivia - she will win every time.
black-owned beauty and wellness businesses
Beauty
Published Sunday Jan 30, 2022 by Denise Prichard

Black-owned Beauty and Wellness Businesses to Know

February is Black History Month—a celebration of the achievements and contributions of African Americans in society.  As the beauty and wellness industry becomes a more welcoming and inclusive space for all, we are taking this opportunity to continue to shine a light on the gap of inclusivity and diversity in our industry, and take action to promote, empower, and honor the Black community that shapes and grows wellness.  

While the beauty industry is making improvements—it's important to showcase and support Black businesses and the creatives in this space every day. To honor them, we're shouting out some of our favorite Black-owned beauty and wellness businesses to support. 

1. Beauty Bin 

Beauty Bin is a full-service day spa and dry bar located in Asheville, NC. With a focus on inclusivity for people of all backgrounds, genders, and races, their MO is to match the outer beauty of every client to their inner beauty. From eyelash extensions and hydrafacials to waxing and massage, Beauty Bin is a one-stop-shop for all the spa services.  
 

2. KIKA Stretch Studio  

The KIKA Method® is a gentle assisted stretching process that loosens up tight muscles freeing your body from pain and stress. By practicing this method, clients can experience decreased muscle tension, increased energy, enhanced flexibility, a substantial reduction in stress, improved posture and relaxation, and increased mental clarity. While its headquarters is located in Las Vegas, NV, they have multiple locations sprinkled throughout the US, including Atlanta, New York City, and Dallas—just to name a few.

3. Kimberly Coleman Salon 

At Kimberly Coleman Salon, their philosophy begins with promoting healthy tresses, elegant sets, unique accouterments, perfect pampering of hands and feet, and precision cuts. Known for working with models and celebrities, they fully appreciate and celebrate the diversity of their clientele which also includes super moms and warrior dads. 

4. Pressed Roots 

Pressed Roots was developed with the simple concept in mind—that everyone deserves access to easy, and quality hair care. What started as a single pop-up shop in Boston, grew to a multi-city pop-up tour, and is now slated to be the largest national hair salon franchise specializing in the care and styling of highly textured hair, they launched their first flagship location in Dallas, TX.  

5. SW3AT  

Jersey City resident, Alyza Brevard-Rodriguez started SW3AT. The company began as a fitness apparel line in 2015 but evolved into a sanctuary catered to health and wellness now known as SW3AT Sauna Studio—the first infrared sauna studio in Jersey City. The healing power of infrared heat therapy is a phenomenal option for holistic health proven to strengthen the immune system and provide relief from joint stiffness and muscle pain. It is also supportive of any fitness program as it aids in weight loss (you can torch up to 900 calories in a 45-minute session) while also detoxifying your body from some of the most harmful toxins. 

6. The TEN Nail Bar 

Kelli Coleman and Anika Jackson opened The TEN Nail Bar in Detroit to address a void in their city. They saw a need for a quality, modern nail bar that could also serve as a fun social space for Detroit’s residents and professionals. They designed the TEN to provide their clients with a #Perfect10 experience—where you can relax, enjoy music, a drink, your friends, a clean and precise manicure, and a much-needed break from all your hectic days. 

7. Bettye O Day Spa 

Located in the beautiful downtown Hyde Park Chicago area, Bettye O Day Spa specializes in first-class treatments. They aim to nurture and relax each of their clients with individualized and innovative therapeutic techniques. From body wraps and massages to facials and hydrotherapy, this day spa promises to be a safe place for healing to occur.  

Looking for more businesses to support? ClassPass has also created a list of Black-owned business to check out all year-round. While both of these lists are a great start to get you familiar with many of the Black-owned businesses either in your neighborhood or around the globe, we have only scratched the surface. We'd love to keep these lists growing.If you have any businesses you'd like to see on this list, click here to submit a Black-owned business we should be highlighting as well! 

denise prichard
Written by
Denise Prichard
Senior Marketing Content Specialist
About the author
Denise Prichard is a certified yoga instructor (RYT-200) and an experienced content marketing professional with a penchant for writing compelling copy within the health, wellness and beauty industries. When she isn't writing or editing, you can find her teaching yoga classes, at a spin class or hanging out with her rescue pups.